I think that supporting Mrs. Florene is important - but trying to 'get George off' would not be the way to go. I know that it will be hard to disappoint her and George, but since dad would not be inclined to help, there is little point in dragging him into it.
You can visit George - and write to him. You can call and go see his mom OFTEN. But I agree with you. This may be what it's going to take to get his attention. He needs to be off the road - so he doesn't kill you or me or anyone else. If he drives drunk and kills himself, it truly is a shame - but it was his choice. If he drives drunk and kills someone else, it is also a choice - and I don't consider it an accident - it's murder.
You don't need to help him do it again. You need to try to help him STOP this pattern. Having to face the consequences of his actions may seem harsh, but maybe this is the wakeup call!
I pray that he will learn from it this time - and that you can help him do that.
I understand he is your friend, and this is where love comes into it for his sake, leave him to deal with the consequences.
I had a friend killed by a drunk driver--walking hand in hand with her husband, the driver hit my friend and killed her... leaving her 2 kids motherless. He is not just endangering his own life driving drunk.
He can have friendship, but that's all he should have now, go visit him and tell him he's lucky for a lot of reasons.
Btw, I really admire you talking about this and leaving it open for discussion, and you are a good person with a kind heart. Give the dog a hug and be good to yourself.
I hate drinking and driving. If you want to drink, stay home. You are right in that George may learn a valuable lesson. I have a brother that never learns. I just don't understand it. My thoughts go out to George's mom though, I know she loves her son.
Your kind heart really shows through in this video -- especially in your concern for Mrs. Florene. But you're right on about it being a *good* thing, hard a lesson as it will be. We all know the 'there but for the grace of God' lesson of AA, and this is definitely a wakeup for George. You certainly can continue to be a good friend, as Grannie suggested, but let's hope that this time George listens.
Hey Andrew... I know this is hard on Mrs. Florene and you. But, you're doing the right thing about not involving your dad. I have someone very close to me that drinks and thinks he is ok to drive. One day, it will happen and it will have a devastating effect on me and those closest to him. It's ok to let him sit there and sober up. It's ok to worry and pray for him. I feel bad for you and his mom. But, let him learn a lesson, if that's possible. Take care and get some rest.
Your kind heart is so evident. I know you and Mrs. Florence are worried about George, but obviously George is not worried about the very real possibility of killing someone while he is drinking and driving. There are consequences for our actions. If you drink and drive you go to jail. This is where tough love has to be enforced. Hopefully, this will be a wake up call for him.
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I think it would be a mistake for someone to bail George out. He might just learn a valuable lesson this time.
Dear Andrew,
I think that supporting Mrs. Florene is important - but trying to 'get George off' would not be the way to go. I know that it will be hard to disappoint her and George, but since dad would not be inclined to help, there is little point in dragging him into it.
You can visit George - and write to him. You can call and go see his mom OFTEN. But I agree with you. This may be what it's going to take to get his attention. He needs to be off the road - so he doesn't kill you or me or anyone else. If he drives drunk and kills himself, it truly is a shame - but it was his choice. If he drives drunk and kills someone else, it is also a choice - and I don't consider it an accident - it's murder.
You don't need to help him do it again. You need to try to help him STOP this pattern. Having to face the consequences of his actions may seem harsh, but maybe this is the wakeup call!
I pray that he will learn from it this time - and that you can help him do that.
I love your kind heart!
Grannie
I understand he is your friend, and this is where love comes into it for his sake, leave him to deal with the consequences.
I had a friend killed by a drunk driver--walking hand in hand with her husband, the driver hit my friend and killed her... leaving her 2 kids motherless. He is not just endangering his own life driving drunk.
He can have friendship, but that's all he should have now, go visit him and tell him he's lucky for a lot of reasons.
Btw, I really admire you talking about this and leaving it open for discussion, and you are a good person with a kind heart. Give the dog a hug and be good to yourself.
Stephany
You are right on, Andrew. He has to learn the hard way. So sorry that this happened, I am sure you are worried about your friend.
I hate drinking and driving. If you want to drink, stay home. You are right in that George may learn a valuable lesson. I have a brother that never learns. I just don't understand it.
My thoughts go out to George's mom though, I know she loves her son.
Your kind heart really shows through in this video -- especially in your concern for Mrs. Florene. But you're right on about it being a *good* thing, hard a lesson as it will be. We all know the 'there but for the grace of God' lesson of AA, and this is definitely a wakeup for George. You certainly can continue to be a good friend, as Grannie suggested, but let's hope that this time George listens.
Hey Andrew... I know this is hard on Mrs. Florene and you. But, you're doing the right thing about not involving your dad. I have someone very close to me that drinks and thinks he is ok to drive. One day, it will happen and it will have a devastating effect on me and those closest to him. It's ok to let him sit there and sober up. It's ok to worry and pray for him. I feel bad for you and his mom. But, let him learn a lesson, if that's possible. Take care and get some rest.
P.S.
This is an amazing preacher. Not what you'd expect.
http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/eleven22/id330208709
Thus endeth my religous talk!
Your kind heart is so evident. I know you and Mrs. Florence are worried about George, but obviously George is not worried about the very real possibility of killing someone while he is drinking and driving. There are consequences for our actions. If you drink and drive you go to jail. This is where tough love has to be enforced. Hopefully, this will be a wake up call for him.
Wow. I don't check the blog for a weekend and George winds up in jail. (Not that one has anything to do with the other.)
I think you're right about this being a wake up call for George. Be there for Miss Florene.
I hope you have a good week.
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